Whereas a woman’s closest female friend might be the first to tell her to leave a failing marriage, it wasn’t unusual to hear a man say he didn’t know his friend’s marriage was in serious trouble until he appeared one night asking if he could sleep on the sofa.一個女人最親密的女性朋友可能是第一個告訴她離開失敗的婚姻的人，而聽到一個男人說他不知道他朋友的婚姻有嚴重的問題，直到他有一天晚上出現(xiàn)，問他是否可以睡在沙發(fā)上，這并不罕見。