欲取姑與將欲取之，必先與之yù qǔ gū yǔgive in order to take; make concessions for the sake of future gains
? 關(guān)于喪失土地的問題，常有這樣的情形，就是只有喪失才能不喪失，這是“將欲取之必先與之”的原則。(《毛澤東選集》195) As for loss of territory,it often happens that only by loss can loss be avoided;this is the principle of “Give in order to take”./將欲奪之，必固與之；是謂微明。(《老子·三十六章》)In order to grasp,|It is necessary first to give.|This is called subtle light. 欲取姑與yù qǔ ɡū yǔ姑：暫且。想取得什么，就先給予他一點什么。give in order to take, make concessions for the sake of future gains |